I have been an astrologer for over 30 years.
When I first heard of astrology, I thought it was the same as astronomy, and in a way it is. Astrology started when ancient humanity gazed at the night sky and watched the movements of the lights in the sky.
Actually, astronomy came from astrology. I wasfascinated by the fact that the planets and the stars mean something other than what I was taught in my science classes.
I studied and watched as my family and friends went through their dramas and joys. I have read thousands of charts for friends and family, and I am absolutely thrilled that the chart will show what will happen in someone’s life.
Occasionally, I study a chart with sadness, but comfort comes from the fact that the horoscope shows a purpose for events and how to work with them. The cosmic scheme of things make sense in the long run.
The astrologers of the early 1900’s were some of the best. Isabel Hickey and Fran Sakoian put it all into order, Ivy made you think, and reading Barbara Watters was like gossiping about the secrets of astrology with a friend. Even crusty old Dane Rhudyar was useful, he made you slow down and think. As a matter of fact, the first lecture I ever heard on astrology was by an astrologer whose practice was based on Rhudyar’s philosophy.
Frequently I hear people say that so and so, “will not do anything without astrology” as if this is negative or a dependency. To me it is a matter of doing things “with astrology”. To those people who love to use astrology I say, “Good! You are now driving through life with a dependable map”. Whether you are going in a Rolls Royce, a Range Rover, a Corvette, a Carmen Ghia, a hybrid, or a little Ford, you now have a map that will show you the best way to get to where you are going. And what a journey it will be with your astrological roadmap beside you.
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One thing that destroys trust in a relationship is when partners say one thing and do another. Or … they say one thing, but really mean something else. It’s so important for both partners to be honest with themselves and with each other. Sometimes, we may not know what we really mean, and maybe our partner can help us figure that out. That’s okay, too. The critical thing is for partners to do their best to be “true to their word” so that they can build a trusting relationship that both of them can count on.
In some relationships, partners use words to test each other. For example, in the heat of an argument, one will say: “That’s it! I’m out of here!” Or the word “divorce” is used repeatedly, most often as a threat to the other spouse or to manipulate the other so that we can have our way. Remember this: We can’t unring the bell!Words can do great damage to a relationship, and once said, it is impossible to take them back, even if we would do anything not to have said them. Testing each other’s love, commitment, patience, etc. rarely works; it usually only builds resentment and destroys trust.
Timing is Everything
The best time to discuss something with your spouse may not be exactly when you want to talk about it … for a variety of reasons. He or she may be tired (or not feeling well or distracted or in the middle of something else or just leaving or coming home, etc.) and not want to or be able to give you their full attention.
Although there are times when something has to be addressed immediately, most often we can be flexible in our timing and take into consideration what may be going on for our partner. Especially when it is likely to be an important and/or lengthy discussion, letting our spouse know that we want or need to talk about something and asking when might be a good time to do this sets a positive tone for the discussion. Together, you may want to set some guidelines (not answering the phone, for example) for the conversation. It is a good idea to plan, when possible, for a time when both of you can be attentive to the other and not be distracted.
Avoid Statements or Actions that Create Defensiveness
There are a variety of ways that we can unintentionally cause our partners to feel and behave defensively. When this happens, the discussion may end abruptly or escalate into an unwanted argument. If this happens repeatedly, it can eventually lead to a breakdown in communication in the couple relationship. There are several ways to avoid this:
• Avoid the use of absolutes: “You never talk to me anymore” “You always get angry with me!” “You’re late, as usual.”
• Avoid laundry lists in which you bring up everything you don’t appreciate about your partner’s behavior in one conversation (or sentence!). Stay focused and sensitive to your partner. You can be assertive without being aggressive.
• Use “I” statements rather than “You” statements. For example, instead of “You make me furious when you don’t call me and let me know you’ll be late coming home!”, you might say “When you don’t call me and let me know you’ll be late, I worry about you … or I get upset …” You can then make a request of your partner, such as: “and I’d like for you to call me when you are going to be late.”
• Avoid sarcasm. Sarcasm is hurtful and it doesn’t help when its effects on our spouse are dismissed or discounted in any way. Statements like: “You’re too sensitive” or “You’re overreacting” are not only not helpful, they cause resentment and defensiveness in our partners.
A lunar standstill is based on the measure of the highest and lowest distance of the Moon from the Earth during a two-week period. This distance is called declination. When the maximum difference between south and north declination of 57 is reached, a standstill occurs. The Moon is either as low as it can get in the sky, or as high as it can get. The difference in the Moon is noticeable by its size, and how close or far it is to the Earth. Go out and look up at the sky at night. For instance, in the summer of 2006, as the Moon sinks, it looks like a huge ball, skimming the horizon.
This year (2006) is a lunar standstill year. Southern standstills for 2006 are 3/22, 5/16, 6/12, 7/9 and 9/29. The major northern standstill is 9/15/06.
Standstill happen every 18.6 years. The next standstill year will be 2025. The beginning of the September standstill is within two days of a Lunar eclipse. The 9/29 standstill is 7 days after the Solar Eclipse.
It has been found that many of the ancients set up stone structures to follow the standstills. The Anasazi carved out a cave as a calendar of the Moon and its standstills. Callanish in the British Isles has another standstill calendar.
Standstills, like all unusual astrological events, bring intensity, powerful reactions, and sometimes extreme weather conditions. When all the aspects look decent but drastic events still occur, look to the the lunar standstill for answers.
During a standstill year, you’ll notice a difference in your emotions all year, but especially at the standstills. At times they’ll be unusually quiet, and at times they act up.
If you meditate or channel, there will be a difference as well; sometimes things come easily, and at other times you’ll feel as if you’re alone. Our Moon is a satellite and amps things up. Notice how it works for you. For some people, the highest point will bring a flood of information and connection, while for others the lower points bring more. One clue is your feelings when the Moon is low, do you feel low? When the Moon is high do you soar and feel closer to spirit? Or is it vice versa? And some people frequently feel calm, but disconnected.
Notice where the standstill is in your chart, and what aspects it’s making. That will be the area of your life that is highlighted.
Try to stay emotionally balanced and connect with source. Major mishaps at this time have to do with the emotions more than mental or physical errors
Listening takes work. It is not the same as simply hearing what someone has to say. Sometimes we’re so busy planning what we’re going to say in response, that we aren’t really listening to what our partner has to say. Or … we think if we let our partner know we understand what they’re saying (and thinking, feeling, wanting, etc.) they will think we agree with them … but this isn’t true!
Listening well and letting our partner know we’ve heard them and understand what they’re saying makes them feel VISIBLE, VALUED and VALIDATED… and much more likely and willing to listen to us when it’s our turn. When we feel understood, we are far more open to hearing what our partner has to say.
Communicate with Respect
This may seem like a simple thing to do, but when we’re angry or frustrated with our spouse, or even just busy with something else, we sometimes forget to be kind and respectful to one another. How do we communicate respect for our partner and his or her feelings, thoughts? If you watch and listen to couples who are kind and respectful to each other, even in the midst of a heated discussion, you begin to observe the following behaviors:
• They listen without judgment.
• They avoid saying things like: “That’s ridiculous!” “You’re crazy!” “You don’t know what you’re talking about!” “That’s stupid!” “You don’t really feel that way”, etc. They don’t say things for the purpose of hurting, humiliating, shaming, or diminishing their partner … and if they unintentionally say something that does make their partner feel bad, they take responsibility for that and validate his or her feelings.
• They refrain from calling each other names.
• They don’t order each other around. They ask. They make requests.
• They avoid using things that their partner has shared with them in confidence (things that may make him/her feel vulnerable) against their partner at another time. (i.e. during an argument)
• They don’t make assumptions or mindread. See below for more on this.
• They don’t tell their partner why he or she is doing something. Usually when we do this, we are attributing a negative motivation to their behavior. “You didn’t remember my birthday on purpose!”
• They don’t get in their partner’s space/face and scream at him/her or in any other way try to intimidate their partner.
• They don’t mimic their partner or make fun of him or her.
• They don’t use humor/jokes as a way to belittle their partner.
• They are respectful of their partner both in front of others and while they’re alone.
• They think about what they’re going to say and the impact it will have.
Sometimes we think we know what our partner is feeling, thinking, wanting, needing, etc. when we really don’t. It’s amazing how often a husband or wife will say to the other: “You don’t know me at all!” It’s important that we not assume that we know what’s going on with our partner, but that we try to find out instead. It’s also important that we don’t feel or say: “If you really loved me, you’d know what I want … how I feel” … etc. We can never really be sure what another person is thinking or feeling.
We also can’t expect someone else to know how we feel loved and cared for. Most people try to show love and care for their partners in the ways that they themselves feel loved and cared for. We need to find out what makes our partner feel special, valued, loved, etc. This doesn’t take the romance out of a marriage … it does just the opposite!
Lack of meaningful and effective communication is the #1 complaint of most couples who come to me for counseling. Either the partners don’t have the skills, (After all … who teaches us how to communicate in an intimate relationship?) the skills they do have go out the window in the heat of an argument, they’ve reached the point where communication is “functional” (talking about what the kids are doing, what they’ll have for dinner, who’s going where and when) but not “intimate” (sharing feelings, thoughts, ideas, etc.), or they’ve given up even trying to discuss anything meaningful because doing so has led to repeated escalation, with no resolution of their conflicts.
By the time many couples get to counseling, they are hurt, disappointed, exhausted, angry, overwhelmed and certainly, frustrated.
I believe that most marriages that end in divorce do so because the husband and wife are not communicating well. They don’t understand each other. And … after a while, they stop trying. But, it doesn’t have to be that way! I have seen dramatic changes in couples (their attitude towards each other, their general demeanor when they come back for their next session) after they learn some basic communication and conflict resolution skills and put them into practice, first in my office, then at home.
A skilled therapist/counselor or coach can see the negative patterns of communication that the couple doesn’t recognize (usually because they’ve become so entrenched in their style of relating to each other). Much of what I do in my practice is educational: in this case, after I discuss with clients my observations about their communication patterns, I begin teaching them more effective ways to communicate with each other.
If you and your partner/spouse are having problems communicating with one another, what I have written below may give you some food for thought and will hopefully, be helpful to you. Some couples can successfully learn healthier techniques on their own. However, most couples benefit from several sessions with a skilled couples counselor or coach to guide the process as they learn new ways of relating to each other.
We are always communicating
Even silence is a form (and a very powerful one!) of communication, but it can mean different things depending on the situation. It can mean we’re tired, angry, hurt, overwhelmed, etc. It can mean that we’ve shut down (whether purposefully or unintentionally) and are not taking in anything our partner has to say. So … how do we know what’s going on with our partner?
Honest, open communication sets the foundation for a “best friendship” and a happy, healthy marriage/relationship. It builds trust in the relationship and in each other. Most of us have to learn to communicate well, especially in relationships that mean a lot to us and in which we are very emotionally involved and vulnerable.
Healthy loving is creating opportunities to grow individually and together by making a continuing commitment to foster patience and kindness, and making conscious choices to respond to each other as lovers and friends.
Healthy loving is setting priorities in your life so that there is time to create a safe and intimate environment for the ongoing discovery of each other.
Healthy loving is appreciating, respecting, and valuing your partner’s thoughts and feelings, even when you don’t approve or agree with each other.
Healthy loving is encouraging your partner to grow as an individual even when you may feel threatened by their new directions. It is believing in them even when they don’t believe in themselves.
Healthy loving is being responsible and accountable for your own life; the degree to which you experience happiness, love, joy, and growth both for yourself and for your relationship.
Healthy loving is recognizing the need for playfulness, spontaneity, and providing pleasure for each other, thus creating moments that nurture, encourage, and support the relationship.
Healthy loving is choosing not to manipulate or control each other.
Healthy loving is recognizing that being open and vulnerable makes a relationship intimate and special. This requires a willingness to risk being hurt, rejected, and even feeling unloved.
Healthy loving is trusting your love for each other so you can see beyond anger, fear and disappointment and overcome the obstacles inherent in any loving relationship.
Healthy loving is recognizing that love is never enough. It is being willing to learn the skills that are necessary for nurturing and sustaining an intimate and mutually satisfying relationship.
Healthy loving is creative problem-solving through negotiation which leads to a mutually acceptable agreement. It is sharing in decision making and taking equal responsibility for the results.
Healthy loving is aspiring to live in truth and harmony. It is giving freely, receiving graciously, and being thankful, day after day, for the opportunity to be together.
The periods between the retrograde and direct stations are a time that the energy is held back, so it is a time to re-do, re-vise, and re-think. For example, with Mercury Rx, it’s a time to be internal, to do more inner thinking or revising. It’s time to think about yourself and the manner in which you think about the issues life and how you talk about them. It’s easy to blame others for what is going on in your life, that is called being external.
Now it’s time to see what these things say about you, that is called being internal. What we see in life is a mirror for who we are. Mercury Rx is also a time to rewrite, revise, and re-communicate with others. With a Mars Rx, you may notice that your energy is low, that it takes more effort to do new things, and effort and activity becomes a struggle.
Once the retrograde is over, you’ll notice that these matters are easier and you have the desire to pursue new things, but you may not be quite up to par. This has to do with the shadow phase. Once the shadow phase has completed you’ll be eager to go, and you’ll find you want to do things in a slightly new way.
The best retro advice I can give you is, don’t go out and start any new ventures involved with the planet until it’s over and the energy begins moving again, which is a few days after the retrograde, but some people may have to wait until the shadow phase is over. It depends on your chart.
However, life goes on and we can’t always avoid buying things, traveling, or making deals in a retrograde. It is possible that you are supposed to go through problems that are created in a retrograde to learn something. If you are open and willing to learn, the problems will be resolved. If the retrograde is not affecting your chart, a problem is not caused by the retrograde.
The shadow phenomena is the reason many people feel a retrograde way before it starts, and this is why those who are affected by shadows still have problems after the retrograde. Some people are affected even more by a retrograde if the planet is retrograde in their natal chart, but some have an easier time.
To determine how each retrograde will affect you consider what the planet symbolizes, where it’s located in your chart and the aspects it makes both by transit, progression and in the natal chart. If the planet is making good aspects in your chart, you should have an easy time. If the aspects are difficult, be prepared and watch what you do.
What it all boils down to is that some people sail through a retrograde and others have a heck of a time; to figure it out get your chart done.
To illustrate the retrograde, I will use the planet Mars as an example. This explanation can be applied to the other planets as well, the only difference will be the events. Mercury affects communication; Venus affects relationships and money; Mars brings events such as fires and war; Jupiter affects religion, philosophy and foreigners; Saturn affects structure and authority and brings loss and delays; Uranus brings unexpected, rebellious events, Neptune brings disillusion and fantasy, as well as visions and mysticism, and Pluto brings destruction of those things that no longer serve us.
Go back in time to the middle ages. You are the court astrologer for a famous warrior king. You have noticed that the planet Mars has been acting odd; it has been slowing down and sort of hanging over the castle. In the past, this has always been a sign of war. You fear dire things are ahead, but the king is ill, confined to his bed, the second in charge is away, and you fear that the castle will soon be besieged. The slowing down of Mars, a warning phase, is the shadow phase.
You keep looking at the sky, and about six weeks later, you see that Mars has stopped moving. You and the inhabitants of the castle are like sitting ducks, no one has listened to you, and sure enough, there is an army of invaders outside the gates. When Mars stops in the sky this is the station retrograde.
A few days later Mars starts to move again, but in the other direction. The invaders now start moving toward the castle, and you feel helpless; you have to convince everyone to do the best they can to hold back the invaders, and you retreat further into the castle away from the invaders. This backward movement is called the retrograde.
Let’s move ahead in time. The invaders have been trying to storm the castle for over two months. The King is now yelling and cursing, especially at you, saying he will chop off your head if things don’t change. You keep telling him that the problems will soon be over. Once again you have noticed that Mars is slowing down, this is the signal that it’ll soon go back to normal. Mars fulfilled its promise, everything was held back; the invaders weren’t repelled, but they didn’t get in, but now they have brought in a battering ram. The heat is on, and the battle is getting intense.
A few nights’ later you go up on the ramparts and notice that Mars has finally stopped; it’s just sitting there. This is the station direct. The retrograde phase is over, the tables are about to turn. Sure enough, off in the far distance you see the allies of the king coming to rescue him, just in time. The invaders are rooted out, and your head is safe for now.
Now all there is to do is to clean up the mess, heal the wounded, speed the recovery of the king with new supplies and medicines, and repair the damage to the castle. This is the second shadow phase, and when this is over the success of military maneuvers will resume without struggle. That is the end of the retrograde and the war.
The dog days of summer, the hottest and muggiest days of the year in the northern hemisphere, occur between July 3 and August 11, while some say it is mid-July to early September. Why do we call them dog days? Because at this time, the constellation Canis Major, or the big dog, appears overhead in the sky. The name has been taken from “Canicularesdies” used by ancient astronomers. In the constellation, Canis Major, is the star “Sirius”, one of the brightest stars in the summer sky, meaning “seropis” or “scorching” in Greek.
The Egyptians eagerly awaited Sirius for it brought the flooding of the Nile, and fresh soil, good crops, but it was also a difficult time, a time of heat, stagnation, inactivity, and disease. They considered it a time of evil, and superstitions were passed down generation to generation. Until recently in England, Magistrates required dogs to be muzzled during this time.
But there is another event that is signaled by the dog days. For space age enthusiasts it is the time of a stargate, and for those who love the esoteric, it is a portal. Esotericists believe this is the portal through which our universe attracts all energy as it is being pulled in by the Ultimate Attractor, the Goddess. It is said that the Vortex of Sirius was closed down over 90,000 years ago, but it was not fully closed down, for a trickle of energy always comes through, and now the portal opens for a short time once every year on July 23rd, when the Sun is in Leo. If it had been shut off, the universe would have ceased.
The Sun conjuncts Sirius around July 5th paving the way for the opening of the Sirius vortex on July 23. Take advantage of it by meditating on Sirius, or just think about it. Be open to the evolutionary energy coming through the vortex.
Many of you know that I often talk about mirrors, and I’m not talking about the kind that you use when you are combing your hair or straightening your tie. I am referring to mirrors that become symbols and synchronicities, the kind that give you personal and mundane information. Have you ever had a life event that reflects a belief or issue that you are working on? This event is a mirror that shows you how you’re doing in life so that you are able to move quickly through an experience.
All right, let me give you a little exercise with a real-life mirror to help you understand this principle. Get a painting that you are able to hold in your hands, concentrate on it for a few minutes, then take it over to a physical mirror, and hold it up so that you can see it. What do you see? Do you see a difference? The mirror is reflecting back a new view, and you will observe things you didn’t notice before. This is a technique that artists frequently use to critique their work; it helps them see what is good, and what needs adjusting. With the mirror technique they are able to make truthful decisions about what needs to be changed. Life may be the illusion, Mirror may be the reality.
Everyday life brings us many mirrors, and they can be a lot of fun to work with once you get the hang of it. There are personal mirrors, and there are political, or world, mirrors. I am going to tickle your mind with the following story that brings up a mirror involving a political situation First I will show you the crisis, then tell you the story, and then give you the solution.
The Political Crisis
For the past few weeks our attention has been inundated with Capitol Hill and White House shenanigans. Recently on the political website, dailymail, Doug Thompson had a great article, called,“ A Sick Dying Elephant“. This article is actually a story about the bloated egos of – guess who? – politicians. Keep the title of this article in mind, it will be great metaphor.
Last month, I read an article on Maggie, an elephant in an Alaskan zoo. I love elephants and the article flagged my attention. Something in my gut told me to really think about it, but with all the things going on in the world, I just put this little tidbit on a shelf, in the back of my mind. It didn’t let go; it kept nagging at me until I finally brought it to light and got an “aha”!
Maggie is 1,000 pounds overweight and on the road to serious health problems. They had put her on a diet, and she lost the 1,000 pounds, but they knew that was not enough. Finally they decided to put her on an exercise regime with a gigantic, elephant treadmill built by a mining company in Idaho. I really like this elephant.
A Few Astrological Symbols
Saturn is in Leo now trimming images and identities that don’t work. Saturn didn’t just trim Maggie down, he also made sure the treadmill was built by a mining operation. For those of you who are not familiar with astrology let me point out that Saturn is associated with mining and making things smaller. How’s that for modern tech and astrology symbolism coming together ?
[Astrologers take note – this is the fun part of your craft –the planets, stars and zodiac signs constantly help you creatively interpret everyday life on many different levels.]
We will add the Moon to the mix. Currently the Moon is in the sign Sagittarius of positive attitudes and athletic activity. This means that the celestial bodies are bringing an opportunity to those in public office to pay attention to where they are treading, and to see if their big plans [Sagittarius rules over big plans ] are getting them in trouble. They must honestly and truthfully trim the “fat”, [Sagittarius expands ideas and waistlines] and do it now while Sagittarius is on their side. I wonder who the political miner will be who helps them out? This is the advice I would give them if they came to me as a client
An article in CNN said, “It’s not easy being a pudgy pachyderm” and Saturn says, it’s too easy being a , “too big for your britches”, politician. If you want to know the group I am referring to think of Elephants. But honestly, both sides are at fault.
How to Work with Mirrors
The fun thing about a mirror is that it gives you something to toss around in your mind, a puzzle at first ,but then the light bulb goes on, and after that the interpretation becomes your own. The above story may be applied to everyone and everything, not just elephants and — ummm –elephants. Ponder, play, puzzle, connect the dots and the metaphors, and enjoy. Let life be seriously funny. [Saturn in Sagittarius or maybe Jupiter in Sag likes to be good at play]
A final word
Soon the Moon will be going into the cosmic trimmer, Capricorn. If people don’t start trimming down their many egos, Saturn, the ruler of Capricorn, will do it for them, and Saturn is known to topple those at great heights. If they know what is good for them, they will start doing this on their own. As I mentioned in my previous article, “Saturn in Leo”, Saturn is going through a two-year period of cutting down big egos, especially if they are self-serving, going nowhere, or with no purpose. And don’t underestimate the power of the Moon to assist Saturn in its work.